Dream: My lover is gay?!

July 19, 2013 4 Comments

Below is a Q&A from a dream column I used to write. Above is an episode of The Dream Detective podcast that explores relationship dreams. To receive notifications of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the show in your favorite podcast platform.

A dreamer writes:
My first love and I were together when I was in high school.  He went of to college for a few years, and has been back in town for close to 2 years now. We have been dating, and intimate. I really like this guy and want to pursue something more with him. He tells me he is not ready and I understand this completely. Last night I had a dream he told me he was gay! I’m confused.

Answer:
Dreams are metaphors, usually not literal.  So we look at the symbolism: A gay man is someone who is unavailable for a relationship with a woman.  This mirrors perfectly the waking life situation of him telling you he is not ready for a serious relationship.  That doesn’t necessarily mean he will never be (he may or may not), however your subconscious mind is showing you what you already know, which is that he is not available for a serious relationship at this time.
Only you can know what’s best for you to proceed moving forward. I would like to encourage you to use and trust your own intuition to guide you through this.  And keep listening to your dreams!
Thank you for writing.

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4 thoughts on “Dream: My lover is gay?!”

  1. I dreamed of my boyfriend being gay and he was sorry for me to find out
    He also run after me when I was crying and told me how much he loves me.
    What does that mean?

    1. Hi Lelo,
      If you read the article, it could very well mean that you are feeling that he is a bit unavailable right now. Is he working a lot, traveling, or involved in a hobby that takes his time away from you? Anything that makes him feel unavailable to you could trigger this type of dream. This is only a speculation however, based on what these types of dreams often mean. To explore the dream in depth you can book a private consultation: https://thedreamdetective.com/dream-interpretation/
      Thank you so much,
      Mimi

    2. I had a dream I was dating someone other than the man I’m with and he turned out to be gay but I was pregnant with his baby like I’m pregnant with my actual man’s baby rn and I went crazy like lost my mind in the dream started crying asking for help and said I’d kill the baby so he couldn’t hurt it the way he did me in the dream and started hitting and banging his head into the concrete then I went outside to calm down and I’m walking back in and my mom was all dressed up and I asked her if he was serious about being gay she said yeah and was like stop acting crazy cause she’s gay in real life. I honestly don’t know what this means at all.

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