A female dreamer writes:

“I had an intimate dream about a woman I used to work with.  I’m not happy with my sex life with my husband, does this mean I’m gay?”

Answer:

No it does not mean that you are gay. If you have been questioning your sexual orientation since before the dream, and you feel strongly about it, then it’s something to consider. But for someone who has otherwise been fairly certain about their sexuality, in no way does this type of dream imply that the dreamer is gay.  What it usually means is that the person you connected with in the dream has some qualities that you would like more of in yourself. So ask yourself: what does this person represent to you? How would you describe her personality?

You mentioned that you worked with her, so here are some ideas; If you worked w/her, are you still working? If not, maybe it’s work that you are missing. Or when you describe her personality, is there something about her that you want to be more like? Perhaps the dream is showing you what’s missing in your life (i.e. what she represents to you, whether its work, or a personality trait, or something else). Once we are more fulfilled in ourselves, everything seems to improve.  This can have a domino effect and can help improve your relationship as well.

I hope this helps,

~Mimi