Episode 30 – Attachment Theory in Relationships with Dr. Diane Poole Heller (part 2 of 2)

In part 2 of my interview with author, therapist, and adult attachment expert Dr. Diane Poole Heller we talk about how the different attachment styles can affect our dreams, as well as some tips for working with dreams and waking life situations to heal our attachment wounds. We also visit the topic of ghosting, and Diane provides some very valuable insights about why people do this. We look at healing metaphors, and Diane shares some of her own dreams and how they have helped her in her healing journey. For more information on Diane, her books and trainings, and The 2020 Trauma & Attachment Summit (Sept. 30 – Oct. 7, 2020) visit www.dianepooleheller.com

Here is a recap of some of the attachment styles, from episode 29:

AVOIDANT
Adult term is ‘Dismissive’
Left-brain oriented
Likes alone time
Future oriented
Uses few words to describe things or answer questions

AMBIVALENT
Adult term is ‘Preoccupied’
Right-brain oriented
Likes connection and reassurance
Past oriented (may have a hard time letting go of painful history; may also be sentimental)
Uses many words and details to describe things and answer questions

DISORGANIZED:
Adult term is ‘Unresolved Trauma’
Can be Disorganized Avoidant or Disorganized Ambivalent (right or left brain, past or future oriented accordingly)
Language pattern is hard to follow, may stop abruptly, lack of clarity regarding who or what they are referring to